The very best and easiest divorces are still emotional roller coasters. It is not always easy to get either your short or long term needs met. This is quite often because you may not be sure what you want you want or need. Your attorney may help you figure out how to deal with the legal and fiscal issues, your therapist may help you deal with some of the emotional turmoil. But, how do you deal with the meetings, the child pick-ups and drop-offs, the pets, the household and credit matters, the daily minutiae that is all different now that you are on your own? This can be a very overwhelming time. A Divorce Coach’s job is to help you be the best you can be going through this process.
Our job is to help you figure out what you really want and need. If you wish we can also work with the other members of your team like your attorney, accountant, and therapist. We help you work out the conversations with your children, family and close friends, what kinds of things you want to say to whom and at what point. What is the healthiest way for you to deal with those conversations and how do we help you take care of you while you walk through the process. What is the best way for you to keep your head while all those about you are losing theirs? Keeping yourself calm and your goal in mind will save you time, money and a great deal of anguish.
Your coach is the guide that helps you through the day to day process so that you are not ringing up more costly bills with your attorney. Your coach is there to help you redefine who you are as an unmarried person.
Divorce becomes even more complicated when parent, spouse, or child is wrestling mental illness and/or disabilities issues. People with mental illness and disabilities often make great single parents but the other side will quite often use those difficulties as a sticking point when granting child or spousal support and guardian and visitation privileges. It is helpful to have a coach in place as a support to help you be clear about what you and your children need and deserve as well as creating strategies for how to get it.
Cases of spousal and child abuse can further muddy the waters of divorce. Often breaking away from a marriage where there has been spousal abuse can be especially terrifying. Maintaining a safety plan for both you and your children can be both critical and complicated. Having a coach to bounce ideas off of or help you build your plan can be calming and reassuring.
There are many coaches in the field. CherryTree Consulting is here to help folks going through divorce and mediation, especially those with histories of abuse, mental illness, and substance abuse. We are also here for those with disabilities or have children with disabilities.
An initial appointment with Dr. Cherry would be in person at a place you would feel the most comfortable. During this appointment we will discuss your particular situation and map out a plan for how we will proceed. Subsequent appointments may be in person, on the phone or via Skype. Not all appointments need be an hour. We can work out half hour or even 15 minute phone appointments that will be billed accordingly.
Please call for an initial complimentary phone session. I look forward to working with you.
Cherry Robinson Psy. D.
About Dr. Robinson
Cherry has been working with families and children in various capacities for the last 20 years. She has worked with both adults and children with disabilities and is familiar with many of the community resources available. She has seen many families through many different types of divorce and recognizes the need for more specialized assistance in the case of disability, mental illness and abuse. Dr. Robinson has a doctorate in psychology. She has received training in Collaborative Divorce and has done parent training for the High Conflict Diversion Program.